In the last 9 monthes alot of life has happened. Sarah and I settled back into life together pretty quickly. Soon after she returned home we found out she was with child. So we had us a baby. Also my best pal left my place of employment and I have had the opportunity to work with another pal and she is kicking but and taking names. Dorothy and I continue to be close. Shes an awesome kid and we have alot of fun together. She has absolutely made Victoria so much easier. I have been surprised at how much I have enjoyed Victoria. Thats been a blast. It sure is alot rougher than handleing a 10 year old….most days. Sarah and I have gotten insanely close. Its really a fun time for us right now, its so damn nice to be back together. I continue to think that the lessons we learned during our 4 year journey will pay off in spades. So now that we are all caught up. Lets get back to it.
A quick video review of our new projector. Pretty badass. Happy Holidays!
Wow, Today Sarah and I celebrated a decade of being married. Man that time flew. We’ve had a really great run so far and Im looking forward to the next 40 years with her. When I look at where I was 10 years ago it seems much farther away. When Sarah and I met I was about as mature as a 7 year old. Now Im at least 15ish. Before I met her i didnt really know what it was to be happy. I mean I had had friends and had passing times of enjoyment but until I met Sarah I never felt fulfilled and happy with myself. It sounds a little codependent but I care not. She’s my wife, and damn I love her. Watching her go from being a teenager into this lovely woman I get to share my life with has been a pleasure. She always knows what to say to calm me down and she picks up where I am weak. We are blessed to be together. 10 years is a long time for people to be Happily married today. But thats what I am, I am happily married to the love of my life and just count myself fortunate to have been able to be in her life and have a chance to make her days a little brighter.
We need to impose immediate new term limits on our highest level government officials. The creation and enabling of career politicians has helped bring alive this monstrosity we call a government. These “representatives” of ours don’t have a clue anymore. They have lost their way and we need to correct the system to ensure those that are supposed to be looking out for us, are. The system today is built to perpetuate greed, corruption, corporate deals and all other sorts of nonsense. Take an individual who has been in the same position for 20 years look at all the back deals, favors, and secret handshakes they had to make to stay where they are. How many times have they comprised the greater good in one of those deals for “One” more term. We need to take being reelected off the board and get some fresh blood into our government. We hear the same things from different people right now.
Look at this Chart. Thats insane, the same people for up to 55 years – thats like accepted stagnation. Apathy and a feeling of futility must clog large segments of the communities that elect these “lifers”. Before you give me the “They have sacrificed for us” speech lets keep in mind these humble civil servants make 174,000 a year. Shouldn’t that be based on the financial situation and location of the individual. Pay them the median of what the American People in their constituency make.
To accomplish what I would like, we will have to make a few changes, they wont be easy, but we are AMERICA and this is the kinda stuff we are famous for. Lets start with the House of Representatives, we are gonna extent their term by two years, we will give them 4 years. That should be plenty of time to make an impact. They can get elected to the Senate(moving on up) but they can not get reelected to the same position. Today they have a Two year term. Two years. They aren’t thinking about anything other than getting reelected once they get in. They don’t have time to. So they are trying their damnest to not piss off the more senior members and do just enough to stay in the news for their constituency. Its a politics boot camp.
For the Senate we will leave them at 6 years. One term for six years and that’s it. That sounds so nice to me. It would solve so many of our problems. We have this super embedded old boy network in Washington and that’s not what we need. Its time we made a change to the system to allow it to start helping us again.
The Pres? Votes out on him – leave him at 4 and reelect or do we give him 8? I think if a president had 8 we would get more done but that’s a long time for an asshole to be in office.
Whew. It feels like is been a while since i have been able to sit down and take a breathe. We have had so much going on in the last 6 monthes it has been pretty insane.
Sarah is home. She had her first day of work today and starts seeing patients on Tuesday the 5th. We moved the rest her stuff back from Gville Saturday. Its nice to know we are done up there.
So now its life as normal. Not sure we know what that means for us yet but we are excited about finding that out. It still doesnt feel real. A few moments in each day I feel an immense euphoria over having her back home and getting through what we did. But shes back and we are really enjoying being together.
We had an amazing vacation in North Carolina. We spent alot of time together and really disconnected from the world. I ended up in cold ass river and lake water a whole lot but had a blast. We spent a day waterfall hunting. We went swimming under a waterfall together and holding my wife in that freezing water feeling warmth only where her skin and mine touched was a magic and memorable moment.
Do you earn love everyday? We say I love you in relationships with regularity that is scary. It gets so those 3 very powerful words get diluted and almost become a given. One of my fears as Sarah returns is slipping into a pattern that takes her for granted. It freaks me out a bit. When you spend 2 days out of 7 together it becomes very easy to layer surprises and little tokens of affection almost every time we would get together. I have been kinda strategizing internally on how to accomplish this.
I woke up one morning this weekend and it kinda hit me. It simple really, Just earn her love everyday. I dont want to take it as a given that she loves me, I want to proactively engage her needs. Microsuprises – little things done throughout the normal course of a day that show you care. A magazine she likes from the store, a car wash, paying the bills or anything that she would appreciate and that wouldnt fall under your “normal” responsibilities. Do at least one thing a day for love if I am able.
Tomorrow is our big day. Sarah graduates dental school. As this has approached the thing that I have been thinking about the most is gratitude. How thankful we are for those that have supported us through this time. We have been very fortunate to be surrounded by people that have enabled us to finish this undertaking.
When we examine all those that have helped us along the way I think first we have to thank my parents. 8 years ago they helped us send Sarah back to undergraduate to finish. They had faith in us from the very beginning and have stood by us the whole way. When ever we needed advice a shoulder to cry on or a little extra cash they have been there for us. We always knew if things got tough we could turn to them and they would stand beside us. Their belief in us bolstered our confidence and resolve and once again have shown us what it is to be family.
I am extremely thankful for Sarahs pals up in gainseville. One of the hardest things about being separated as much as we have is the constant worry. Making sure Sarah didn’t break down on the side of the road and giving her a place to turn and to help her through some of the dark times. Without them I doubt we could have completed this epic journey. There are 2 people specifically that I have come to consider part of our family. Yasmine and Sumaya(i always spell it wrong) I always felt when Sarah was driving off in the morning that she was leaving one family to go and be a part of the other. I have listened to these girls adventures and trials throughout the last four years and watched what I hope will be a life long friendship. They will always be welcome in our home and we consider them a part of our family.
My other family- Which is the entirety of the staff at Lanier Upshaw and in particular the CEO Scott Franklin, the CFO Bruce Bulman and my closest friend Matt Sandonato. It was almost 7 years ago when Scott took a chance on me and provided the support and opportunity to be able to tackle this task. He had faith in us and he had belief that we would be able to complete this journey. Bruce has been my personal wailing wall. He has let me vent and calmed me and helped me deal with the doubts, fears and insecurities as I have gone through them. And then there was Matt. Ever since Matt came here he has been my partner. He has picked up the slack when I had to be daddy and has always been more than willing to step in watch Dorothy take anything off my plate and just overall been there for us. Its been a blessing working at Lanier Upshaw. Like any company we have our challenges but more often than not I left work smiling and glad to be a part of a great company. We spend so much time at work that without the constant encouragement that we received from them, everyday would have been drudgery.
There are countless others that have been supportive, from my pals on twitter to my tech circle around the states to Sarah’s family that has kept her spirits raised and talked to her almost every day. There is so much for us to be grateful for and so many people to show gratitude too that it is impossible to cover them all. Know that we thank you and we appreciate all that you have done for us.